SheSpoke: The Widowed and The Single Mother
Let's talk about the treatment of single mothers and widows in this part of the world.
Na she kill her husband oh! She wants to chop all the money he made and not share with his family Why did she marry an older man? see na ... shebi e don die Na money she wan chop Family of the Husband: We are sorry but you killed our son. we can’t help you and yes just so you know because you don’t have a male son - we are taking all the property
What’s our own? No be you no wan work before? No we are not giving you any of our son’s money or businesses No we are not giving you any of our son’s money or businesses No we are not giving you any of our son’s money or businesses We don’t know you any longer
Single Mother/ Young Mother
Ashawo!!!!! Just dey open leg anyhow, see all these small girls that lack home training Even if na rape, what was she wearing that day? na lie jor!! Na she cos am See when they say marry before children some people will not listen? I feel sad for her parents sha ....what a disgrace What they don’t see: Her struggle to provide for her children Her starvation for her kids to eat Her working multiple jobs to be a provider Her determination to go to school and still raise a child Her Rambo-ish resurrection When she makes it out of the ditch that they put her in they begin to They begin to "famz" her and praise her like Winne the Pooh loves honey. They are stronger than you would ever know and they need our help They should not be thrown out They should not be forgotten Sometimes they need help but they don’t know how to ask Be there and ready for them when they ask And most importantly to the families of the widowed; they need support, not insults To the family of single mums, they need all the support you can give